All living things contain a measure of madness that moves them in strange, sometimes inexplicable ways. This madness can be saving; it is part and parcel of the ability to adapt. Without it, no species would survive. – Life of Pi
If you’ve read the book Life of Pi please raise your hand. Even though I can’t see it I greatly appreciate the gesture.
Actually, I forgot that we’re in the age of technology so if you’ve seen the movie please also raise your hand.
Both are excellent representations of how your circumstances force you to evaluate or reinvent perspectives in your life, actions, and the choices that you’ve made.
Sometimes these evaluations or reinventions are done by choice while other times they are forced upon you.
Regardless, these changes can often be difficult. Some of them may be huge.
- Getting married
- Having kids
- Starting your own business
- Overhauling your nutritional habits
- Ending a relationship
- Losing a loved one
- Staring college
- Taking a trip around the world
- Moving from one state to another and starting fresh
While at other times they may be small and seem insignificant.
How can you and I learn the power of adaptability so that we are ready and willing to take on any change, big or small, that comes out way?
WHAT IS ADAPTABILITY?
Adaptability can quickly be summed up as your ability to move in a given direction at anytime. This may mean physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.
- It’s your willingness to learn, make mistakes, and learn some more.
- It’s your ability to render adequate feedback and make adjustments or changes in your behaviors that produce positive and productive results.
Most of us walk into any new situation with a set of prejudices about what we think is possible. These prejudices can come from past personal experiences, other people’s experiences, or simply mistaken beliefs.
We then form rules about what will happen based on these beliefs and those rules typically affect that choices or actions that we take.
Whether it’s changing your diet, starting a relationships with someone, or taking a new job all of us go into every situation with a set of expectations, requirements, and desires.
- Expectations: Where we assume what will happen
- Requirements: What we need to actually happen
- Desires: What we want to happen
The power to adapt to any situation in life lies in getting clear on what these expectations, requirements, and desires actually are.
It’s about closing the gap between the risks that we see in the changes that are happening and all of the opportunities we’d like to seize from those risks.
WHY WE SOMETIMES SUCK AT ADAPTING
Well, because it’s sort of hard isn’t it?
Adaptation often requires you to stop following the status quo, to get out of your comfort zone, or to break routines.
That sweet ol’comfort zone of ours helps us to decrease stress, reduce anxiety, and keeps us from taking risks. In reality it’s not all bad, we need our comfort zone to go to every once in a while.
That grilled cheese and tomato soup on a cold day if you will.
If you’re ok with living in your comfort zone for the rest of you days there’s nothing inherently wrong with that. It’s safe and secure and I can’t blame you. You can actually stop reading now if you’d like. The rest of the article might not be of much use for you.
However, if you’re looking to continually grow, challenge yourself, and embrace some of the uncomfortable then keep reading.
For any of you looking to become the best version of yourself you can possible be it will be your ability to embrace the uncertainty that comes with stepping out of your comfort zone and adapting to the changes that are necessary to excel.
HOW TO BE MORE ADAPTABLE
You already know all about your comfort zone. It’s safe and secure, comfortable, normal, easy, and reliable. It’s full of Moms homemade apple pie, a warm cozy bed with your favorite stuffed animal, Unicorns and butterflies.
Surrounding your comfort zone are other places know as:
The Learning Zone: This is where your dreams are, ambitions, and goals hang out and party. It’s exciting, sometimes a little dangerous, challenging, and full of opportunity and ability.
Right outside of your learning zone is the Panic Zone: This is where frustration, fatigue, tension, anxiety, and stress kick it. It’s like the bad part of town you never really want to go into if you don’t have to.
And finally just beyond the panic zone is the Magic Zone: It’s sort of like a mystical land that no one really knows much about. You hear rumors about how cool it is but not many of us personally know people who have been there.
Many of us would like to make it to the magic zone but then we realize how much hard work it takes and decide against it. Thinking about some of the tough stuff you might have to deal with (in the panic zone) in order to get there keeps us from trying.
Gary Gagliardi tells us that to get to the Magic Zone we have to become more adaptable and that act requires great courage, tenacity, and experimentation.
Sun Tzu, author of The Art of War says that to get to this magic zone you have to be willing to expect anything and everything and admit that we might not know what we will find.
Science as a practice tells us that we should constantly be seeking to disprove ourselves in order to find better and more useful theories, solutions, and outcomes in our life.
In his book Everday Survival, Lawrence Gonzles tells us that the ability to adapt to any situation or change can be looked at in four ways:
1. Willingness to search and understand: To seek out different people, cultures, religions, and theories. To get away from what you assume to be right and to be willing to admit that you might just be wrong sometimes.
I could not phrase it any better than Vera Nazarian from the Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration.
“It’s a fact—everyone is ignorant in some way or another.
Ignorance is our deepest secret.
And it is one of the scariest things out there, because those of us who are most ignorant are also the ones who often don’t know it or don’t want to admit it.
Here is a quick test:
If you have never changed your mind about some fundamental tenet of your belief, if you have never questioned the basics, and if you have no wish to do so, then you are likely ignorant.
Before it is too late, go out there and find someone who, in your opinion, believes, assumes, or considers certain things very strongly and very differently from you, and just have a basic honest conversation.
It will do both of you good.”
2. Sometimes you need to throw away your mental scripts: Mental scripts are those automatic habits that make life easier for us because you never have to really think about them anymore. They remove the thought process and make things automatic. Like tying your shoe, the route you take to work, or the foods that you eat.
These come in pretty handy most often except when the necessity for change is upon you. Then these habits or routines are pretty tough to break and unfortunately life often requires you to break them every so often.
3. Catching yourself in the act: Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and almost immediately dismissed their opinions on a topic just because it was the opposite of yours?
Yeah, me neither 🙂
You’ve got to catch yourself here and become aware of why you are automatically shooting down stuff?
Arguments are not opportunities to prove you’re right they’re an opportunity to learn and understand where someone else is coming from.
4. Believing you can adapt: Your brain is already equipped to adapt. Through neuroplasticity your mental abilities, memory, and ability to learn are designed to improve over time. So essentially you’re already hard-wired to adapt.
5. Practice makes perfect: Yup, practice being adaptable by working on building the adaptability habit. Do something little to break routines every single day.
Take a new route to work, go vegetarian for a month, try a new ethnic cuisine, use your other leg to put your pants on, a new exercise routine, have lunch with different friend or stranger even.
6. Exercise consistently: No joke, exercise is one of the best ways to practice adaptability. By consistently doing so you are breaking down muscles and forcing them to repair, grow, and get stronger in order to accommodate your increased activity.
7. Take your time making decisions but also shoot from the hip: Practice both decision-making techniques but on occasion also act on impulse. More importantly take notes and measure which process is more successful for you.
8. Create problems in stead of waiting for them: Anticipate failure but expect success. Becoming aware of what may go wrong can help you to prepare for it in the future. Instead of trying to figure it out on the fly it’s a good idea to think about some obstacles you may face and to plan for them accordingly.
- What hiccups might arise when trying to start exercising?
- What might hinder your progress when trying to establish healthy eating habits?
- If you take this new job what are some things that may have to change?
9. Knowing the rules is important but understanding when to break them might be even better: In the book The Big Picture: Essential Lessons From The Movies an example of Babe the pig is given. Babe doesn’t succeed by acting the way a pig is supposed to, Babe finds success because he breaks the rules and acts with manners, politeness, and a positive outlook. The exact opposite of what you’d expect from a pig.
“…The father of the modern automobile, founder of the Ford Motor Company, and inventor of the moving assembly line was a highly unconventional business leader. Henry Ford challenged his times (and his investors) by insisting on producing affordable automobiles for a mass market. He paid his employees much more than was common at the time, creating what he called “wage incentive” and thereby attracting and keeping a strong work force. Advocating “welfare capitalism,” Ford took an unusual amount of interest in the lives of his employees, requiring them to live according to the rules set by his “Sociological Department,” which restricted how they spent their leisure hours. His risks paid off, and Ford Motor Company has helped define the modern urban landscape…” – Businesspundit.com
10. Don’t waste your energy on every challenge: Save some of your mojo for the really big important stuff. Why fight certain battles when you can simply go around them. Save your energy for the big stuff that doesn’t have roads surrounding them.
It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change. – Charles Darwin
There is seldom a perfect outcome to any situation but you can create better experiences for yourself by using the power of adaptability.
We’re constantly evolving beings and lets not fight that but instead embrace many of the changes, experiences, and lessons that we’re learning daily.
Let go of any of all the personal limitations you may place upon yourself. There are far to many examples of people doing extraordinary things and overcoming major hurdles. If you take a look at your own timeline I’m sure you can find a few of triumphs of your own.
In his book Adaptability: The Art of Winning in an Age of Uncertainty, author Max McKEOWN mentions that people have a knack for putting up with awful circumstances or unhappy situations simply because it’s what they’ve always known or is actually comfortable for them.
Break that mold by becoming adaptable.
Remember, “Risks are only theory – While taking action is reality.”
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